So I've been official divorced for awhile now.
Yes it's only a piece of paper but it makes a world of difference. When it arrived in the mail I stares at it then I called the court house and spoke to a clerk. I asked them to confirm it was indeed a divorce. She congratulated me and told me celebrate. Apparently everyone knows my ex and agrees he should do the world a favor and not be in anyone's lives in any form.
I've been happily legally changing my name and removing what was left of the stain he had left on me. My children are thriving when with me. But it's another story he. They are at their dads. Homework is usually failing grades, half the time he won't send them to school, they come home sick/misbehaving/ and more. It kills me that nothing can be done. I've been offered money to go back to court and terminate his rights/visitation. But I'm struggling with how to best do this. It's a fine line to walk when it comes to my kids. He is their biological father and they love him. But they also would be 100% better off to not have a psychotic bipolar compulsive lying abusive deadbeat on their lives.
As for me I am doing well. Happy and in love. Living and growing. Dreaming and building a new life. It's pretty damn good feeling to be free of an abusive marriage.
