I wrote a bunch, then deleted it. Im just so confused and hurt right now. I dont know what to say. I am very worried for my kids. I know the ex is breaking several parts of the custody agreement. Having people that are not allowed to be near the kids, near them. Saying negative/lies to the kids regarding me. Making the children lie about things that happen to them when they are there. Having overnight guests, and not being present at all during his visitation hours- leaving them with his family so he can go and spend time with his girlfriend instead. When I try to remind him about the custody order, he flips out. Last night I picked two of my babies up from him, they wanted home and he didnt want to deal with them. As I loaded the kids up into my vehical he reached over and rubbed my thigh. I jumped away, couldnt say anything with the kids all eyes and ears. I just drove off. Today he texted about coming over and 'taking care of me'. I said no and ignored him unless it was about the kids. Then tonight when two of the kids came back home again he was very rude, angry and threatening. He had a friend with him, a friend who gave me dirty looks and mouthed awful stuff towards me. Im just so tired of his mood swings. So tired of his games. So tired of everything.
I want tomorrow to come, so my oldest has to come home. So I can make sure all of my babies are at least physically ok. So I can then hide in the bathroom and cry over the pain my kids are going thru. Tomorrow Im going to see about making a deal with the devil. Figure of speech, but somene who I hate and who hates me in return, we both have an invested interest in beating my ex. I need help from whatever angle I can get it. I will give up my soul to keep my kids safe. And I know their father is not safe for them.
I strongly recommend talking to your lawyer about revising your parenting plan. Document EVERYTHING so that you have records/proof that he's not upholding his end of the plan. I think I recall reading in a previous post that your ex only got supervised visitation with the children...what happened to that? I have a history very similar to yours, and it took years to get my son away from his bio dad permanently. be careful. know that it will, eventually, get better.
ReplyDeleteI keep a record of the times he has the children, all his texts, calls etc. Ive also kept everything other people have given me. And I make note of what the children say in regards to the comings and goings over at his place. I dont ask the kids for information though.
ReplyDeleteMy ex only gets supervised visits with a child he has with another person, which was before us. But thats a joke, his family is supposed to supervise but they dont, he drives off to whereever with that child, by hisself.
sorry, i must have misunderstood. I'm glad you're keeping records of everything. hang in there.
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